Beverly Jean Hyacinth Joanne Agnes McNally Monley at the age of 89 hitched a ride on the moon and passed from this life onto the next at the home of her daughter and son-in-law, Peg and Jyles. Beverly loved many things; being a mom to her ten children, marveling at the clouds in the sky, cooking for a houseful of people, baking up a storm, lending a hand wherever and whenever she could, reading poetry and anything else really, taking long walks with friends, and being with her family. She was a firm believer in the power of homemade bread. More than anything, Bev instilled in her children the importance of being a loving and caring person. In the world of great moms, youd be hard pressed to find a better one. We were truly blessed to have her as our mom for all of these years.
Caring for Beverly took many forms over the years but for the last 10 months, Bev lived in the care of her daughters Peg and MK. Together with their spouses, they rolled up their sleeves and dug into the hard work of caring for an aging parent. There is a lot that goes into living with dementia and caring for someone you love who has this diagnosis. We were all able to navigate this world of caregiving with a sense of humor, a lot of frustration, healthy doses of compassion and love, and more than a wee bit of Jamesons. Honestly, our family made a great care team, and we were able to repay in some small measure, the care our mom gave us growing up.
We could not have managed this without the support of so many people. Champlain Community Services provided us with care coordination that made this whole thing possible. Project Independence aka The Club offers home care providers the respite needed during the day to sustain the hard work of caregiving. They also provide the participants with socialization, great meals, fun activities, a lot of music, and a healthy amount of TLC. We also could not have cared for our mom without our respite care team. Pam, Baylee, Nancy, Olivia, Victoria, and Miranda. You were just what we needed to make Bevs home care possible. Thank you! Central Vermont Home Health and Hospice was also an indispensable part of the team. As we say in our family; everyone who gets to be born gets to die. And the folks at CVHHH have a wonderful team of people who helped our mom die with dignity, care, and compassion. We also couldnt have made it this far without the support of moms primary care physician, Dr. Christine Payne who cared for Bev for many years.
Bev is survived by her children and their families, Catherine and Adam Wilson, Nancy Watkins, Eileen and Mike Murphy, Tom Monley, Tim Monley, MK Monley and Don Schneider, Peg Monley and Jyles Yates, Shawn Monley, and Trish Monley. All of her grandchildren and great grandchildren, you know who you are and you know that she loved each and every one of you with all of her heart. Bev is also survived by her sister Betty and husband Ted, brother Tim and wife Laura, and sister Karen and husband Jack. She was predeceased by her husband Dan, son Rick, parents, Edward and Hyacinth McNally, and two sisters, Pat and Mary Lou.
This spring and summer brought a lot of joy for Bev. She saw all of her children and siblings, witnessed two of her grandchildren get married, attended a great grandchild's high school graduation party, had visits from many friends and family, and dreamed about a return trip to Ireland. Peg and Jyles love to dream as well and had actually planned on this exact week to take Bev to Ireland. However, it was apparent that Bev was too ill to travel and Ireland remained a dream. So when the time came for Bev to leave this life, we think she made her own travel plans. As she slipped away, the moon poked out from behind the clouds and rose over Irish Hill - the knoll across way. If Ireland is heaven to Bev, she's sure to be there.
A Memorial Service will be held at the end of June 2020 on what would have been our moms 90th birthday.
Details will follow closer to the date. In lieu of flowers, please pass along a simple kindness to someone.
Beverly would enjoy knowing the world is a kinder place.